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Every man has an inner critic—that nagging voice that tells us we’re not good enough, smart enough, or strong enough. 

It shows up when we step outside our comfort zones, when we make mistakes, or even when we’re doing well (but it convinces us we don’t deserve it).

This week, we’re tackling that voice head-on.

You’ll learn why it exists, how to recognize it for what it is, and, most importantly, how to break free from its grip.

Let’s dive in.

Teachable Insight: The Inner Critic Is a Habit, Not the Truth

Your inner critic isn’t an all-knowing judge—it’s a habit your mind has built over time.

It’s the voice that tells you you’re not good enough, that you’ll fail, that you don’t deserve happiness.

But here’s the truth: self-criticism is not reality; it’s a conditioned response.

Most of the time, this voice is an echo of past experiences—parental expectations, societal standards, or moments of failure that left a lasting mark.

The problem isn’t that you hear this voice; it’s that you believe it.

The key to silencing your inner critic isn’t fighting it but challenging and reframing it. 

When left unchecked, negative self-talk creates cognitive distortions—patterns of thinking that make situations seem worse than they are.

Some common ones include:

• Black-and-White Thinking – "If I don’t succeed completely, I’ve failed."

• Mind Reading – "Everyone thinks I’m incompetent."

• Catastrophizing – "If I make a mistake, I’ll ruin everything."

Your inner critic wants you to stay in your comfort zone, where there’s no risk of failure.

But staying there also means there’s no growth.

The way to silence it isn’t through brute force but by rewiring the way you respond to it.

Two Key Takeaways:

1. Your inner critic is a habit—one that can be unlearned.

   • It thrives on repetition, and breaking the cycle requires intentional change.

2. You can challenge and reframe your self-talk.

   • The goal isn’t to eliminate the voice but to shift your relationship with it. Instead of blindly accepting it, question it.

Three Exercises to Try This Week:

🛑 Interrupt the Pattern with a Physical Cue

• Every time you catch your inner critic speaking, physically do something to stop it. Snap a rubber band on your wrist, clap your hands, or say “Nope!” out loud. This breaks the automatic loop and makes you aware of the negative thought.

🔄 Flip the Script (Counterattack Method)

• When you hear a negative thought, immediately counter it with two positive truths. Example: If your critic says, “You’re not good enough to lead this project,” respond with, “I have led projects successfully before, and I am fully capable of figuring things out.”

💪 Action Overthinking Challenge

• Pick one area where your inner critic holds you back (public speaking, socializing, asking for help). Set a small, immediate action that challenges it. Example: If your critic says, “You’re terrible at conversations,” force yourself to start one conversation with a stranger this week.

  Action kills doubt.

Closing Thought:

The inner critic is not you—it’s just an old recording playing in your mind. You have the power to turn down the volume. Start small. Challenge the voice. The more you do, the quieter it gets.

💡 What’s one way your inner critic holds you back? Reply and let me know.

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